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I love this scene! Will (Matt Damon) and his therapist, Sean (played by Robin Williams), are talking about the future.
This scene came to mind recently after I started meeting new people recently. I went out but things kind of flopped.
One flop isn’t going to stop me though.
It wasn’t fun, but it also wasn’t the end of the world.
Will’s therapist challenges him with the question, “What do you want to do?”
Will is a mathematical genius and he has chosen to be a janitor at Harvard University.
He can be close to academic peers without the fear of failure and abandonment. He sabotages a relationship with a premed student when things get too real.
I won’t tell you what happens but as a defense mechanism, instead of being vulnerable, Will gets defensive with Sean, “You’re lecturing me on life?! Look at you, you burnout! …You wanna talk about soulmates? Where’s your soulmate?”
“She dies and you just cash in your chips and you just walk away?”
The most poignant part is when he tells him he could “ante up” again. It is tough love but it is also a turning point. Self-awareness that he has been running from this and now he sees.
I am starting over. I am going to “ante up” and try again. There is still so much life left to be lived.
What about you? Where do you need to “ante up” again?
What’s holding you back?