“Death’s greatest power is not that it can make people die, but that it can make people want to stop living.” Fredik Backman, My Grandmother Asked Me to Tell You She’s Sorry
This is a powerful quote.
Death is inevitable, so also is grief. However, the danger is being stuck in grief to the point of feeling like you cannot go on.
All kinds of grief can be a dark place. Some grief can be darker than others.
The almost-eight-year-old protagonist of Fredrik Backman’s novel, My Grandmother Asked Me to Tell You She’s Sorry wrestles with a “treasure hunt” arranged by her deceased granny of making up with her friends after her passing, trying to help them all overcome their own haunting past and grief.
No kind of grief is ever easy to deal with. It doesn’t always go away completely. But it still does need to be worked out. If you don’t work through grief and pain, it lingers longer with the ability to hold you captive for the rest of your life.
If you stuff, avoid, refuse to deal with grief, then it will return as an ugly, unexpected monster, which you will have to face one way or another in the end.