I love my daughters and my son so much. They are my favorite people in the world. Sorry everyone else.
I came across this superb article written by Heather R. Morgan, a world-changing woman, on Forbes today that was worth the share for all you dads (and moms) out there who wants to create strong, independent women who can think for themselves and make a difference in the world.
Here are some of my takeaways from her list:
Teach your kids to be themselves. You don’t have to coax them to be like everyone else. If they have their own individual style encourage that. If they want to go do something against the current and it is something positive that will help them grow, let them go.
Find ways to teach your kids to do things on their own. Don’t always step in to save them anytime there is a problem. Let them figure out how to solve it. You don’t have to let them do it all alone, but let them come up with solutions before you fix it yourself. Kids need to learn by experience. They need to learn by failing. Don’t prevent a kid from failing, rather encourage them to fail. After she fails, encourage her to get back up and try again. Tell them to try a new approach.
Encourage your kids to think about the world around them. Ask open-ended questions to see if they know the answer or what they think about something. Maybe they don’t know or don’t have an opinion, but asking them the questions starts the wheels turning. This is a great way to encourage deeper discussions, especially as they grow up.
Let your kids know that you will always be there for them. If they get in trouble, if they make a mistake, tell them what it is a mistake, a learning experience to grow from. Don’t reject them or shame them, build them up. They need it.
Teach your kids to take risks. Tell them not to settle with a “safe” choice, but to look further and try something they could fail at. Again, the more they fail, the more they learn. Failing is a way to grow. It might hurt, but there is no greater teacher.
The final point goes right into that. When they fail, love them anyway. The greatest lesson you can teach your kid is that you don’t love them because of what they do, you love because of who they are. You love them because they are your daughter or son. In that way you foster that relationship with your child. They know you are always a safe place for them to share things with you. They won’t be afraid to tell you when they messed up, but they will look to you for comfort. You will be a place of strength for them to find rest in the midst of it.
I hope you enjoyed this article as much as I did 😉