If We Don’t Forgive Those We Love, Then What is Left? #FredrikBackman #Inspiration #Quote #Love #Forgive


“Because if we don’t forgive those we love, then what is left? What is love if it’s not loving our lovers even when they don’t deserve it?” ―Fredrik Backman, Britt-Marie Was Here

What a great quote! I feel like this has been said in so many different ways but the same message. It’s a call to forgive those you love, even if they don’t deserve it.

What I’ve learned about forgiveness is that forgiveness doesn’t mean that you forgot what someone did. It also doesn’t mean you still trust them the way you may have in the past. Forgiveness is for you and for the person that may have hurt you.

Unforgiveness and bitterness is something that hurts you more than it hurts anyone else.

Don’t be stingy with forgiveness. Doing so will be more to your own detriment instead of the detriment of those you love.

Britt-Marie was Here by Fredrik Backman is a great book. Get in on Amazon here.



  1. I think forgiving is good for mostly the one that was hurt but there are dynamics relationships where abusers continually abuse the people that forgive them, in domestic violence, there’s a vicious cycle of abusing them apologizing and abusing again. Forgiveness should include cutting off abusers from your life. You can forgive from a distance. I was raised in Christianity, was trained to constantly forgive and it taught me to accept abusiveness. I had to unlearn that to protect myself. Abusers often target kind, forgiving people.


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